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So I sit here today pondering many different things… Why do people act the way they do? How can someone who loves you talk bad about you & why?

I stop myself and remember the Serenity Prayer…. I need the Serenity to accept what I can not change. I can not change what people say about me I can only control how I respond. Currently, I am going through a divorce and it has been brought to my attention that my soon to be ex husband is saying things about me that really hurt. I am a mother of a wonderful 8 year old son and he is saying things that make people think badly about me as a mother. Anyone that truly knows me, knows that being a mother is so precious to me.

When people say things about the way you are as a parent it really hurts. I don’t believe he is intentionally trying to hurt me but it does. Divorce is never easy and in this situation I am the one who actually made the final decision. We tried to make things work or at least from my point of view we did. At the end of the day, it just did not work out. We are two very different people with very different outlooks on life. Throughout it all my main goal was to make sure my son was not hurt by this. He is and always will be my number one priority.

Over the past month, I have really seen my husband’s true colors. As I mentioned he has been talking to people about me and how I am as a parent. (My son is from a previous marriage.) It amazes me what has been said and to avoid making matters worse with him, I choose not to disclose this on here. Bottom line is that if someone says they love you, why would they bad mouth you?

He has been begging to try one more time or as he says “Its the bottom of the inning and there are two outs, and I am up at bat, three strikes and I’m out and I will leave you alone.” He likes to use analogies when discussing things.

I believe my husband is a genuinely good person and has so much to offer. Unfortunately, we don’t see eye to eye on many things and I know in my heart that it is best to go our separate ways.

Again this brings me to the Serenity Prayer. I ask God/Universe/Higher Power … whatever you want to refer to it as.. for the Serenity to accept the things that I cannot change and Wisdom to know the difference. I cannot change my husband, or what he has to say about me. The only thing I can do is be the best person, mother, daughter, friend… that I can be.

As you read this I am sure there has been a time when someone has said something to hurt you, remember that you only can control yourself. As they say, This too shall pass….

♥ Ang